Declaration of Interdependence – July 4, 2015 – Signatories Wanted

When in the course of Universal events, it becomes necessary for One People to transcend, while still honoring, the healthiest aspects of the political, ethnic, religious, gender, cultural, racial, sexual orientation, national, age, health, height, weight and any and all other differences that seem to separate them in the manifest realm, and to assume among the powers of the Universe, the unified and equal origins of all that is, an integrated respect for all sentient beings requires that We declare the causes that impel Us to the recognition of Our Inherent Oneness.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all beings emerge from the same Mysterious Origin, that they are inherently One with that Origin (since they could not have come from anywhere else, at least that We know of so far), and that the humans (and others) among these beings are, again inherently, blessed with a yearning for and an ability to thrive within the apparently paradoxical juxtapositions among connection, autonomy, mercy, interdependence, grace, responsibility, safety, risk, purpose, justice, change, stability, kindness, gravity, effort, rest, story, compassion, achievement, and Love. Oh, and by the way, the greatest of these is Love, and essentially no different from the Mysterious Origin.

We further hold that today We honor our ancestors’ and Our own historical sacrifices and movements through individual, tribal, national and international attempts to provide and guarantee these blessings, and We recognize the dignities and disasters perpetrated by each of these movements, and We further commit to remembering the first two paragraphs above, and more importantly, to using any means that does no harm to ensure that such recognition manifests moment-to-moment in Our behavior.

At every stage and in every nature of Our perceived separateness and difference, the best and wisest among Us have petitioned Us to see what We could not yet see, and to do what We were unable to do at the moment of their petitioning, and We now offer a deep bow of gratitude for the ability to step back and take perspectives unavailable to many long ago, and to see the painfully slow, albeit inevitable, progress that these best and brightest in every generation pointed to and petitioned Us to see and act upon.

We further recognize and embrace the bittersweet reality that whatever Good We now bring to this manifest world, at this time, in Our best years and worst moments, is no final arrival – no destination point, but simply another step in Our return to remembering Our Inherent Oneness, a step, which if those who come after Us are paying attention, they will not have to take themselves.

We, therefore, the Representatives of Mysterious Origin, the seemingly separate manifestations of Inherent Oneness, joyfully publish and declare that We are free and interdependent; grateful to and absolved from any and all allegiance to any unhealthy and unreal separations imposed upon us by occasionally well-intentioned, and often useful and necessary individuals and organizations that served an appropriate purpose during their specific historical emergence, and whose time or usefulness has now passed, whether they can see this themselves or not.

We further commit ourselves to act with the highest compassion towards those of Us whose conditioning or fear prevent a full embrace of Our Common Origin in this moment, and in so doing, remember Our own fear, and respond with and in Love, as We would want to be responded to Ourselves.

In support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on Our Common (and still Mysterious) Origin, We collectively pledge to Ourselves, each other and All That Is, to engage the work, play and practice required to live this Precious Human Life in Love in this and every moment.

The Healing Narrative – Choosing a Story that Heals

This post is an initial reflection of my collaboration at Teleosis Institute with my good friend, Dr. Joel Kreisberg, who’s also a fellow Integral Master Coach™. I hope you’ll stay tuned as we work to bring the strengths of “integral” in the world of and “health coaching.”

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Faced with the grief that inevitably accompanies loss – whether due to illness, injury, death or departure of a loved one or any other trauma, what is the story we choose to tell, and how and why do we tell it? Do we tell a story of resistance, victimhood, blame and guilt that relentlessly revisits the trauma – what we might call an illness, injury or victim narrative? Or do we tell a story of acceptance, awareness, connection, gratitude and presence – what we’ll call here a healing narrative?

reggie pic1The choices we make and the stories we tell emerge from how we see our lives, and have a powerful impact on what we’ll be able to see and do next. We learn our earliest storytelling predispositions from the narratives our parents, guardians and teachers tell when we’re very young. Having just fallen from the tree and broken our 8-year-old arm, are we confronted with an inquisitorial scolding about carelessness, danger and fear, or are we enveloped in a loving embrace that connects with our pain, creates awareness around the risks of exploring while still accepting the inherent value therein, and expresses gratitude that we are, in fact, all right – albeit with a broken arm. These earliest narratives set a thematic undertone that we may not be aware of for years, if ever. Continue reading

Some Thoughts on Writing and Healing

Following my interview on Grief and Healing with Dr. Robert Wright and Christine Wright of Stress-Free Now, I’d like to share a bit about my earliest personal experience with the role of writing as a vehicle toward healing. My own “healing narrative,” in addition to writing, includes meditation, physical exercise, wandering in nature and conversation/relationship as practices that nurture healing. An earlier post and the interview are available here, and what’s below makes most sense in the context of the interview.

My earliest memory of intentionally engaging writing as a healing practice (that language emerges through hindsight – at the time I was simply venting my frustration at a perceived injustice) occurred when a Vice-principal told me he would throw me out of school if I didn’t get my hair cut. This was 1970-’71, my junior year in a Catholic High School in New York. I wrote for several weeks in a notebook about how, in light of everything I did at the school (which I’ll spare you here), a focus on my hair was horribly unjust. Today I can embrace both the superficiality of the length-of-hair issue and the developmentally necessary self-expression it represented for the naively obedient-to-authority sixteen-year-old I was.

I learned that expressing my feelings in writing allowed me to vent without fear of repercussion. It also, over time, gave me some distance from what and how I was feeling – what I now understand as the subject-to-object move that is necessary for development. The writing allowed me to look at what I had previously been looking through. I was, over time, gradually able to more clearly see myself, how I felt, the Vice-principal, and our respective roles in a rapidly changing culture. I know now that he was struggling to keep his head above a rising tide of longer hair and loosening ties for the boys and shorter skirts for the girls.

My next significant writing/healing experience began as I attempted to reconcile my athletic and academic experiences – more specifically, doing well academically and getting cut from basketball teams in high school and college while working hard at both, and then being moved by the experiences of the high school student-athletes I coached and taught for 13 years. My notes and scribblings evolved into a book manuscript, The Quality of Effort: Integrity in Sport and Life for Student-Athletes, Parents and Coaches, which was published in 1991, and then revised and re-released in 2013.

When first engaged, the writing often intensifies difficult feelings – we become sadder, or more frustrated or more angry as we re-experience through the written word what needs to be healed. Over time however, writing that reflects and broadens perspectives, as opposed to writing that persistently and only revisits the details of the transgression, illness or injury, leads more often than not to a sense of increased well-being.

I’ll bring this piece to a close with a bow to James W. Pennebaker, Ph.D., Chair of Psychology at the University of Texas, Austin, and the essential researcher on the role of writing and better health.

Pennebaker, James, W. Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions. New York: Guilford, 1990/1997.

Pennebaker, James, W. and John F. Evans. Expressive Writing: Words That Heal.
Enumclaw, WA: Idyll Arbor, 2014.

See Dr. Pennebaker’s site for more.

Grief and Healing

Some months ago I was asked to write a “healing narrative” as part of a larger project with some Integral Coaching® colleagues. Through our work together, which is ongoing, I came to see that I have negotiated, and continue to negotiate, grief and healing in my life through 5 practices or modalities – writing, meditation, physical exercise, being/wandering in nature, and relationship/conversation.

More recently, I was invited by Dr. Robert Wright, Jr. and Christine Wright to explore grief and healing in an interview as part of their ongoing series for Stress Free Now.

The interview is just under 33 minutes, downloadable, and accessible by clicking here.

In upcoming blogs, I will explore each of the 5 healing modalities individually.

Thanks for staying tuned.