Be aware of the mess.
Be aware of how we see and feel about the mess.
Remember (or consider) that calling it a “mess” is a perspective we’re taking (or that’s taking us).
Consider that it may not be a mess.
Ask for help, or offer it.
Accept* and love ourselves as we are.
Accept* and love others as they are.
Do the hard work to bring about necessary change, starting with ourselves.
Forgive ourselves when we (think we) have come up short. Forgive others.
There’s more, but these will suffice for now.
*Accept here means to receive or recognize what’s here in the moment, and does not suggest that we have to like, tolerate, encourage how things, we, and others are.